Starters Kit - Chapter 02

Firstly, my #1 rule for messaging women is simplicity. Because let’s face it, most women just aren’t gonna be worth your time. This is why I turned everything I know into an easy replicable system that you can execute with one eye closed. irstly, my #1 rule for messaging women is simplicity. Because let’s face it, most women just aren’t gonna be worth your time. This is why I turned everything I know into an easy replicable system that you can execute with one eye closed.

Turning messages into actual dates is a four-step system that I’m going to share with you below. You’ll soon see that every milestone sort of has its own few to-do’s you need to check off, but if you can follow recipe you certainly can do this. Listen, women HATE long messages. It has neediness dripping all over it.

Everything that you say about yourself in a message will come across like a sales pitch. Just like an annoying car sales men you’ll feel like you’re being sold. The trick is to have her realize ON HER OWN that you’re a great CATCH.

(that’s where your profile comes in)

The message below is what we call a “Hook & pull opener”. I’ll explain the special thing it does in a minute, but it’s prime “objective” is to get the woman to check out your profile.

STEP 01: SEND THIS MESSAGE

Don’t even think about it – Just click [Search], look for women in your location. Copy & Paste, Copy & Paste, Copy & Paste.

I’m serious.

Send this to 5 or 6 women in your area:

“I would leave out the online dating formalities and invite you for a nightcap. But, I’m sure you are aware – the Internet can be an unsafe place to play. I came up with some cautious questions for my protection, just in case…

What is bluer, the sky or the blue lagoon? 2. Whipped cream or Strawberries? 3. Park bench or 69?”

Don’t mention her name.

Right off the bat, this message communicates ALL the things she’s already looking for.

It’s no wonder, on InstantHookups this message has gotten me a 78% response rate.

(That’s more than most guys get on OKCupid when they study a woman’s profile to craft up a good response.)

Before I reveal the four different stages you have to guide a woman through before she’s ready to “come over”, there’s two things I need you to understand.

One, this is the prospecting phase.

Two, courtship takes time.

Regardless of whether she’s just looking to get laid or looking to get married it takes an average of 48 hours until she’s EMOTIONALLY ready to meet up with you.

This is why I set the tone straight from the get go.

*“Whipped cream or strawberries? Park bench or 69?” *

Any girl that replies to your message (and a lot of them will) – already KNOWS she’s not gonna come over for milk and cookies.

You’ve set an expectation she has passively accepted and quite frankly most women are just hoping you’re not gonna f*ck it up.

Listen man, women LOVE sex.

(Probably even more than men do)

You’ll be surprised when you discover all the “slutty” things they’ll secretly tell their friends about.

But she needs to get confirmations that you are the cool guy, your profile makes her believe you are.

This is why you need to take the time to “guide” every woman you want to meet through these four attraction stages to CONFIRM what she ALREADY knows about you.

Over and over again.

The 4 Step System

This is why some guys are absolutely killing it on these dating sites where others can’t get a single date.

They’re not worried about what to say.

They know it’s far more important WHERE you say it.

Psychologists call this “frame of reference”.

There’s a lot of stuff going on subconsciously that most people aren’t even aware of.

If you’re chatting with a woman ON the online dating site, you’re by definition the guy ON the online dating site.

Mentally, she puts you into the same bucket as every other guy on the site and that’s not where you want to be.

Your biggest priority when you want to meet up is to get yourself into a different bucket.

By now, you’re probably thinking “But Josh, how can I get into a different bucket if I AM the guy from the online dating site?”

And the answer is by changing the environment.

Your mission is to change the medium on which you interact with her.

It’s the ultimate shortcut to getting laid fast.

By moving the chat from the app to regular text message (viber, whatsapp, imessage –whatever you prefer) you’ve moved yourself from the dating site bucket, to “that cute guy she knows”.

When we analyze your replies tomorrow, I’ll show you a good message for how to do that.

With every step, we’ll tune the frame of reference further in your favor until she’s LITTERALLY BEGGING to go out with you.

STEP 02: SAVE YOUR REPLIES

Save some of your replies, because this is what we’re going to talk about next.

Some women will make it easy for you, while others will throw a few “roadblocks” your way.

This is what we call shit tests and I’ll show you a cool trick to INSTANTLY turn it around on her that creates MASSIVE ATTRACTION.

That’s it.

Nice and short today.

Now go get some you rockstar.